The modern family is sometimes one of the hardest things to deal with when wedding planning because they are so accustomed to how things were when they got married. They may have a lot of feedback and input into your wedding planning process, so we have a few tips for you to remember when trying to navigate through your planning the way the that you want to do it.
First up, be prepared. Now this recommendation is directed for the couple who is getting any significant portion of their wedding paid for by parents, grandparents or close aunts and uncles. Consider all of the things that they may want you to do, such as get married in a church, use the same pastor they used, jump the broom, wear your mom’s wedding dress, etc. Always remember that they do not want to control your big day, they just might be fixed on those traditions and passing them down. So develop your conversations with that in mind.
Second, communication is key. The last thing you want to do when dealing with your modern families is hold in any thoughts that you have in response to their input. It may get even more overbearing if you don’t speak up in the beginning. Be sure to always listen to what they have to say, but ensure that you are honest, open and provide a considerate and tactful response.
Third, consider compromises. Compromising with wedding planning by no means entails giving up something you feel strongly about. However, sometimes a middle ground isn’t too bad! You can make your parents happy and still feel good about your decision as well. You should never feel like you are settling when it comes to your wedding. Remember, it YOUR wedding and you must be happy at the end of the day… and you will be just communicate with a smile on your face cause you still want them to pay for some things. You will soon find, this is an expensive undertaking.
Fourth, know that it is okay to be selfish. Never lose sight that this is your special day as mentioned before, not your parents, your friends or anyone else’s. It is perfectly fine to let someone know that in the nicest way.
Fifth and last, people pleasing. As soon as you agree to to marry the love of your life and best friend, and finally on the path to planning the wedding of the year, you may have friends and family members patiently waiting to be asked to be a part of the coveted WEDDING PARTY. This is a task that must take serious consideration when selecting who is going to hold these positions. We are going to do our next blog that specifically addresses this in detail. Watch out for this blog next week!
Keeping these things in mind when dealing with the modern family will be key when it comes to eliminating worry, uneasiness and stress during your wedding planning! If you’d like for Devoted to Your Event to help you in the process and take away the stress during this busy time, don’t hesitate to reach out, we’d be happy to help; it’s what we love to do!
Source: https://www.brides.com/story/traditional-parents-modern-wedding-tips
Tracy Pope
Devoted to Your Event